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Thursday, August 26, 2010

Step 1 in Resolving Conflicts

Get what you Want and Resolve Conflicts Every Time. Part 1
      In today's society conflicts arise out of such little quirks as "She didn't say 'Hello.' to me this morning."  We as a society are geared to how things make us feel that we neglect finding out what we may be doing to contribute to the problem, or what we are saying that may be escalating the matter.  When resolve conflicts with feelings we get confusion, anger, hostility, and even depression.  If we resolve conflicts using facts, issues, and action plans we have a much easier time satisfying all parties involved. 
        What people say or do is not as important as how you respond to it.  You can choose your response and see that you also respect the other party's right to their response.  We determine our behavior because we are creatures of choice. 
The Power of The Question, "What Do I Want?"
1.  This question resolve conflicts peacefully inorder to
a.  negotiate chores
b.  ngotiate contracts
c.  work with people who rub you the wrong way
d.  solve emotionally charged situations
e. teach your children how to do it just by watching your example.
2.  It is clear and easy to use.  Even children can be taught to use this question and stop using their feelings to dictate their cooperation.
3.  It's based honesty and positive moral character, not on coercion and manipulation.  Resolving conflicts peacefully, is designed to strengthen relationships, build new connections based on positive character.  You and the other person are apt to respect, and even to like one another after the resolution.  It can, if used properly, make friends out of enemies.
4.  It works from the inside out.  Helps eliminate stress, because it is based on mutual respect for the other's point of view.  You know what you want and can give to the situation.
5.  You get agreements that stick.  The solutions last.  All parties believe that it is in the best interest of all concerned.  There is no win/lose agreement where on party feels bullied and taken advantage of and the other gets all the blessings.
6.  You choose consciously how you desire to be seen and act in the world.  You build a reputation that precedes you of fairness, honesty and reliability.  People see your character before they see you and begin to decide that you're the best before they even talk to you, because of all the success you leave behind!!!
        We will learn the 3 step process to resolve conflicts in the next few articles.  Here they are in summary:
1.  Be clear about what you want from the situation.
2.  Be clear about what they want and make sure they feel heard and respected.
3.  Find the common ground.
        In the next few articles we will discover how to find out what you want and the other parties want and how to negotiate a common ground.
        If you want to learn more about getting what you want through The law of attraction and more about conflict resolution visit us at Manifested Abundance and Abundant Life and Mellisa's Twitter Page.  You can email your questions to manifested.abundance@yahoo.com. 


Tuesday, August 24, 2010

The Teachers of The Secret

Larry King Interviews Oprah on The Secret

Bob Proctor on The Secret

Manifested Abundance: 12 Tips To Win People to Your Way of Thinking

Manifested Abundance: 12 Tips To Win People to Your Way of Thinking

12 Tips To Win People to Your Way of Thinking

12 Tips To Win People to Your Way of Thinking
1.     The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2.     Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
3.     If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4.     Begin in a friendly way.
5.     Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
6.     Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7.     Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8.     Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9.     Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

Manifesting your own reality takes realizing what you want and leads you to gain the knowledge of how to get it.  When we win others over to our way of thinking, we treat other's ideas with respect and take responsibility for our mistakes.  If we do not have a teachable attitude we cannot manifest our version of reality.  If we do not win others over to our way of thinking in a respectful manner, we give our right to have what we want and we develop enemies.
          We need to get our priorities straight and think about how our actions affect others.  Do we want to manifest wealth, riches, finances, love, hope, etc…?  what exactly do we want?  I gather most people want to have peace, joy, and abundant living.  Can you have joy if you are constantly brow beating someone to believe your way?  Can you have peace if you steal from your employer?  Can you have abundant living when you spend more that you have and are constantly anxious about paying the bills?  Of course not.  Simply thinking correctly does not do it.  You must make the effort to put into practice the lessons you get from The Secret.  Try out the first 7 lessons for free!


        






















         












  

Thursday, August 19, 2010

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Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Law of Attraction: Win-Win Negotiations To Getting What You Want

Part of the craze today is The Law of Attraction.  It sounds so easy and nice and simple.  What it amounts is seeing your true potential through negotiations.  We all have great potential as highly intelligent beings on this planet. What we neglect to teach ourselves and others is that we get more from each other than ourselves.  What do you mean by that? you might ask.  We are not islands to ourselves. We are part of the bigger picture of humanity.  Whatever we put out there affects some body.  Why not choose to put out there service oriented minds.  We we serve others, we serve ourselves.  The Law of Attraction is all about what kind of person you are inside.  If you think and do with selfish intentions, then you will have selfish intentions thrown back at you.  The Law of Attraction is a two-edged sword.
The Law of Attraction is getting what you want in your daily journey.  In order to that we must make friends out of enemies and foster relationships in positive ways.  We must treat others as we want o be treated for the Law of Attraction to work.  The video Impression of Increase is a great place to start.
     Getting what you want in negotiations is what we all want.  So let's get down to the true work.  First, Remember, selfish intentions bring harm to your negotiations.  So first let's get what you want very clear:  You want the deal to satisfy all parties involved.  What do you specifically want during this negotiation?  What can you compromise on?  and What can you not do without?  Remember,  Respect for yourself and others is key!  You must see that you are not going to hurt anyone in this negotiation.
     Next,  See what it is that the other parties want.  What do they need out of this negotiation?  You will have to listen very closely and take notes.  Find out what they cannot do without.  Your goal is to find the common ground.  When we seek to see the situation from the other person's point of view, we can see them for who they truly are.  We must see others as human capable of mistakes.  We must seek to understand and then to be understood.  To get a complete course on how The Law of Attraction Works click here.
     Now we need to stop, think about all the information we have gathered.  What do I truly want out of this? What do they truly want out of this?  If you don't know, ask.  Ask, What do you need from this agreement?  Is there anything that you can compromise on?  How do you want to resolve this issue?  What does the final agreement look like to you?  Get into their head by asking open-ended questions.   Review all you have gathered.
Next, we think of all the possible solutions to the situation.  What are the possible outcomes of this agreement?  What could possibly go wrong with each solution to the problem?  What could go right with each solution to the problem?
Finally, we proceed with the best options.  We seek to find the solution that see to everyone's needs and creates that win-win solution.
Getting what you want can be easy if we stop and think of what the other parties in the situation want.  We can overcome a lot of pride and arrogance that we see in others by simply see the situation from their point of view.  There are lots of books and videos out there to help you on your journey.  My best liked is The Secret.  Bob Proctor is an excellent teacher for this.  You can get 7 free lessons  by giving your email.  I have found them highly educational and have found them to help me in my life coaching business.  If you like those lessons here are some books that also increase your knowledge and help you along the road:








Thursday, August 12, 2010

The Power of Desire, Belief and Expectation



Learn How To Manifest Abundance


How to Get in the Right Mindset to
Manifest Your Intentions

In the last lesson you learned
a technique to help you properly apply the Law of Attraction into your life
to draw towards you the things, events and circumstances you seek to build a life
you desire. The technique involved spending a few minutes a day in meditation and
creative visualization.
Learning the technique is the first step. But how do you approach your
goals AFTER you come out of your daily visualization session? What attitudes, feelings
and emotions do you need to maintain or create?
To make your intentions come into your life with greater frequency and consistency it’s important to understand the three forces of power, those forces are — desire, belief, and
expectation.
Before anything that you want to happen can happen, you have to have a
desire that it will happen. You have to believe that it can happen. And you
must expect it to happen.


Sounds simple? Perhaps. But there is a lot more to it.
In this lesson we’ll explore each force of power in detail and understand how you can apply these forces into your life.

The First Force of Power – DESIRE

Your right to life means your right to have the free and unrestricted use of all things which may be necessary for your physical, mental and spiritual unfolding – in other words, your right to be rich. We have the RIGHT to choose, we have thePOWER to choose what we’re going to have … “Ask and it will be given.” … Our problem is – we don’t really believe it.
And so we are often content to stay in the current reality. We don’t attempt to push for or indeed achieve anything new. In short – we don’t DESIRE much more than what we already have.
Let’s think about this in regard to earning money … Although the differences in what you’ve earned over the last 12 months and what you choose to earn over the next 12 months might be great, the change in your personality is usually very small … it’s all a matter of CHOICE – you’ll simply change your thought patterns.
Burt Goldman shares the following story
Consider the story of the disciple who went to his guru one day and asked,
“Master, how do I achieve enlightenment?” The wise old guru directed
the disciple to the bank of the Ganges River and had him kneel with
his head over the water. Then the guru
put his hand on the young man’s neck and pushed his head below the surface
of the water. After a minute and a half the young disciple was frantic. He
pulled and heaved and flailed his arms, but the grip was like iron. He could
not get his head back out of the water. After two minutes, when it seemed as
though his lungs would burst, the grip was released.
The young man’s head
jerked out of the water and he took great gulps of air into his tortured lungs.
The guru smiled. “Tell me,” he gently asked, “ what was your greatest
desire just then?”
“To breathe,” the young disciple stated emphatically.
“Ah,” the guru said. “When you desire enlightenment to that degree, it shall be yours.”
The first key to attracting good things in your life – is to DESIREthem.

Here are Some Ways to Build and Maintain Desire

Think About How Others Will Benefit
Think about what you can do with the money you earn to benefit the world. Perhaps you’re environmentally conscious, pro-peace, care about education for under-privileged kids…think about what you can do with the money you earn to promote and fund these causes.
Use Reminder Tokens
Want a new car? Your desire may be high when you first set the goal, but like many people, it may wane as time goes on. This of course, does not help with the Law of Attraction.
To keep the thought of the new car constantly on your mind try creating reminder tokens. Get a set of keys made – generic keys – and carry them in your pocket.
These simple reminders help keep the thought of the new vehicle fully fresh in your mind.
Another common technique is using a mock check. Tear out a check from your bank book. Make a check out to yourself, writing to yourself the amount of money you wish to manifest into your life.
Daily Focus
Yet another way to keep desire strong is by practicing the manifestation process we outlined in Lesson 5. The daily practice of visualizing your goals and feeling the positive emotions associated with them will help keep the desire strong and flowing.

The Second Force of Power – BELIEF

After you have built up your desire to attract something into your life the next step is to strengthen your belief system.
Why is Belief so Important to the Process?
Your thoughts, when directed towards a certain thing – will bring that thing to you. But the reverse also occurs – if you worry and experience anxiety about getting something, in other words the thought of lacking something, this has the effect of pushes it away from you.
This is why belief is so critical. If you do not believe you can attain something, your worries and anxiety will counter any positive thoughts you have of the goal and neutralize the workings of the Law of Attraction.
The man I want to become,
if I BELIEVE myself to be,
I will become

~ Gandhi
Whatever you seek to achieve MUST be within the realm of what you believe to be possible.
Belief is a powerful tool and doctors are still often astounded by what belief can do to a patient’s health
In the summer of 1994, a surgeon named J. Bruce Moseley conducted an amazing experiment. Doctors had long been aware of the ‘placebo effect’ – the idea that you can give a patient a placebo, a fake pill, tell the patient that this pill is real and will cure their pain, cough or sore throat. Sure enough, because the patient believes the pill to be real, they often end up cured.
Mosely wondered just how strong the power of the placebo effect could be. Would it work on something more than pills for minor aches and illnesses? Would it work for more serious medical conditions that involved surgery?
Moseley had 10 patients scheduled for an operation intended to relieve the arthritis pain in their knees. The patients were middle-aged men. All 10 were wheeled into an operating room at the Houston Veterans Affairs Medical Center. They were draped, examined and anesthetized. They went through all the elaborate procedures designed to make them BELEIVE that they were about to go through a serious medical operation. They were then dispatched to the recovery room and the next morning sent home, equipped with crutches and a painkiller.
But there the similarities ended between all 10.
For while two of the men would undergo the standard arthroscopic surgery for their condition — the scraping and rinsing of the knee joint — and three would have the rinsing alone, five would have no recognized surgical procedure at all. Their surgery would be a placebo, a make-believe surgery designed to fool the patient.
The result: All 10 patients reported that their arthritis has been considerably healed.
Mosely’s experiment was repeated by a team of surgeons in Texas on 180 patients with osteoarthritis in the knee. Two-thirds got the actual surgery. But for a third, the surgeons faked it – they went through the motions of giving a tranquilizer, making three incisions and pretending to do the surgery.
According to the New York Times
“The researchers found patients who underwent the placebo surgery were just as likely to report pain relief as those who received the real procedure. It seems for osteoarthritis patients, the relief is all in patients’ minds.”
Belief is a powerful thing. And it can be channeled to do more than help you recover from serious illnesses.
Belief, when combined with Desire is a powerful tool to help you use the Law of Attraction to draw to you events and circumstances you wish to bring into your life.
Without Belief, you simply will not be able to properly use the Law of Attraction. The lack of belief will cause thoughts to emerge in your head that are counter to the events you wish to attract.
This means that if you’re currently broke, setting a goal to be a billionaire within 5 years may be too tough on your belief system. You may desire a billion dollars, but you may not honestly believe you can acquire it so fast. Without that belief that goal is pointless.
It takes a strong soul to be able to channel so much belief into huge goals. But anyone can TRAIN their belief system to grow and become stronger.
You can start by setting a goal that excites you, that you strongly desire, yet is also something you believe is possible. Going from broke to a billionaire may be too much of a stretch. But aiming to go from being broke to having $10 million in the bank is certainly within the realm of possibility. If you can believe it’s possible – it is.
You’ll know if the goal you’re setting is right based on your inner feelings. If you feel a certain amount of dread or worry – you might be too far away from your current belief system. But if you have positive feelings of excitement and possibility then you’re setting the right goal.
The beauty of this process is that once you hit your goal, you boost your belief system. Having hit goal after goal time after time – your belief system will expand more and more. Eventually you may get to a stage where you can believe 100% that one billion dollars is within your grasp.
Fortunately, we humans keep breaking new boundaries in our belief systems every year. In 1952, Roger Bannister, an athlete in England decided that he would set a new world record for running a mile in under 4 minutes. No athlete prior to Bannister had ever run a mile in under 4 minutes. It was a big goal, seen by many to be in the realms of the impossible. Roger Bannister hit his goal in the spring of 1954. He completed a mile in 3 minutes 59 seconds.
But Roger has set more than a world record. He has also raised the realm of possibility for thousands of other runners, many of whom had once thought that running a mile in under 4 minutes was impossible. Just 46 days after Bannister hit his goal, another runner John Landy of Australia ran a mile in 3 minutes and 58 seconds. And within one year, as many as 30 other people had completed the 4 minutes mile.
Roger Bannister showed the world that it was possible – he raised the belief systems of thousands who were inspired by him.
The Law of Attraction did the rest.

Positive Expectations

So you desire something big and you believe it’s within your reach, you’ve already started to get the Law of Attraction working for you.
But here’s the third and final step.
You should now expect what you’re asking for to come to you.
Desiring and believing something is possible is not the same as expecting it to occur.
The following example might clarify the difference.
You loaned money to a friend. It’s been 3 months and he’s yet to repay you. You’re asking for the money but you just don’t seem to be getting it back.
You certainly DESIRE the money to come back to you.
You do BELIEVE your friend could and is capable of paying you back.
What’s missing is expectancy. Because you don’t expect him to pay you back you’re
causing the Law of Attraction to act against your favor. You get stressed, feel angry at his lack of appreciation and integrity. These negative feelings hold you in a state where you’re pushing away the money.
Now imagine what would happen if you suddenly got a call from your friend saying that he’s come around and has decided to repay the money. He tells you he’s mailed you a check using Fedex. To ease your doubts, he faxes you a copy of the check and the Fedex delivery receipt. You now have a changed attitude. You nowEXPECT the check to come. As the saying goes, you can relax because “the check is in the mail”.
This is what we mean by expectation!
When you’ve developed a proper degree of expectation, you’re able to relax and allow the Law of Attraction to work for you and not against you.
As the late Sam Walton, at one point America’s richest man said:
I expect to win. I go into tough challenges always planning to come out victorious. It never occurred to me that I might lose, it was almost as if I had a right to win. Thinking like that often seems to turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Let’s provide another example of how this works. This is an actual example from a student of Bob Proctor’s. John from New York ran a small business with his wife. They built websites for clients. One day, Andrew, an old friend of John’s approached them and asked them to invest some money in a potential business idea. John was intrigued so he signed the papers and made the investment of $12,000.
John thought he was buying into a great idea but in reality the business was unsound and the so-called friend had no intention of returning John’s investment. John felt betrayed and cheated. He had just lost $12,000 – he and his wife had been saving up for their future plans.
John had been chasing his friend Andrew for months to no avail. John DESIRED the money. He BELIEVED Andrew could return the money. But he just did NOT EXPECT it to come to him given Andrew’s character.
What would John do in a situation like this?
After studying the Science of Getting Rich John said “The answer hit me like a brick. Because I had been CHASING the money, I was placing myself in a state of mind where I simply pushed the money away. I saw myself as someone who had LOST $12,000.”

John knew he could not change Andrew’s character so he decided to try a different way of earning his money back. He decided “I was going to make up mind to earn $12,000 within a month. I knew I deserved the money. I opened myself up to the possibility of the money coming to me – almost like a gift form the Universe – but through other sources. In my daily meditation – I saw myself receiving a check for $12,000. But I did not care where that check came from. I just desired it, believed it was possible and expected it to come”.
John reported that within 3 weeks of changing his mindset he received a pleasant surprise. A particular client commissioned a project that was much larger than normal for John. John had to work 2 days on the project. But his payout was far greater than normal. Coincidently – the payout was EXACTLY $12,000. Prior to this John had never received a check of that size.
Coincidence? Perhaps. But that’s exactly what you’ll start to notice happening in your life once you begin to apply the Law of Attraction.

Desire, Belief and Expectation —- these are the 3 forces of power than you must learn to harness to allow the Law of Attraction to work for you.
Get in the habit of thinking big and desiring wonderful things for yourself and for your fellow man.
Believe that it’s possible. Build your belief system by aiming for bigger and bigger goals each time you accomplish something new.
Finally, expect good things to happen. As you apply the lessons here you’ll notice streams of beautiful coincidences pushing you in the directions you seek. Your expectation of good things will grow and blossom.
And when all three are aligned – good things will certainly come to you in numbers and magnitude far greater than you might ever imagine.
Stay tuned for the next and final lesson Friend.
It seems like everybody has their own theory on how to survive the recession. Just some of the kind of
stuff you’ll see across the internet and blogosphere is advice like:

1. Protect your job
2. Move while others are distracted
3. Earn extra money
4. Evaluate your mortgage
5. Refinance high interest credit cards
6. Reduce spending
7. Haggle your way to savings
8. Conserve and reduce your energy bills
9. Avoid taking on any unnecessary debts

With so many ways and advice, how come not everyone gets rich? How come not everyone who reduces their spending get rich? How come not everyone who has an education get rich? How come not everyone who starts a business get rich?

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